What’s a Refuge Recovery Meeting Like?
Revealed on January 2, 2019 on Recovery Methods
After leaving remedy, attending mutual help conferences are a good way to proceed your recovery. You meet different people who are additionally in restoration, which helps you build your sober network. Attending conferences additionally provides you an opportunity to assessment what you discovered in remedy. At the very least, attending common meetings is an effective reminder that restoration from habit is an ongoing course of.
12-step packages corresponding to AA are the perfect recognized and most widespread type of mutual help group. There are greater than 100,000 AA teams alone, not counting different 12-step packages comparable to NA. Nevertheless, the 12-step strategy isn’t for everybody. Many individuals have reputable variations with the 12 steps, including their reliance on the disease mannequin of habit and their insistence on the surrender to a better energy. For these individuals, an alternate strategy could also be simpler.
One various to 12-step packages is Refuge Recovery. Refuge Recovery is a relatively new organization that has shortly grown in reputation in recent times. It’s a restoration technique based mostly on Buddhist apply. The 4 Noble Truths of Refuge Recovery are: 1. Habit creates suffering, 2. The reason for habit is repetitive craving, 3. Recovery is feasible, and 4. The path to restoration is on the market. Refuge Recovery uses mindfulness meditation and loving-kindness meditation to scale back cravings, regulate feelings, and construct social connection. Conferences are free and confidential and you don’t should be a Buddhist to attend.
The conferences themselves are fairly easy. They are peer-led, which suggests meetings are facilitated by a member who’s accustomed to the Refuge Recovery philosophy and format. Nobody is predicted to determine as an addict or alcoholic. Conferences start with a brief introduction to Refuge Recovery, together with a studying of the 4 Noble Truths and the Eightfold Path. Then, everybody participates in a 20-minute group meditation.
After the meditation, the chairperson will either introduce a studying from the literature or a speaker will discuss a restoration matter. Then, the meeting is opened up to group sharing. Each one that needs to speak will speak for a few minutes about any current challenges or triumphs related to habit. As with 12-step sharing, cross-talk, akin to interrupting, asking questions, or providing recommendation, is discouraged. At the end of the assembly, you can also make a donation if you’d like. The typical donation is about five dollars.
Many individuals find Refuge Recovery extra open-minded and less dogmatic than 12-step meetings. There’s no need to decide on one or the opposite. Many individuals attend both. Neither is there any purpose to worry spiritual entanglements, as individuals of all religions, or no faith, are welcome.
My First Refuge Recovery Assembly
This text has been mildly revised
By Olivia Pennelle
Revealed on June 7, 2017 on The Recovery Village
I obtained sober in a 12-step modality, but had lately come to an impasse. I used to be fed up with hearing the same phrases from their literature – which I struggled to narrate to – time and again. I was tired and I needed extra for my restoration. My restoration had grow to be stale and repetitive and I couldn’t proceed in that approach – but I wasn’t positive which solution to turn. I felt lost.
I used to be scared of being ousted for considering past the 12-step modality; and being labelled ungrateful, or one way or the other missing humility. I waited for the phrases “you’re headed for a relapse” stated to those that had chosen a unique path.
I dared to put aside my fears – and dogma – to discover different modalities of recovery. I chose to begin with Refuge Recovery.
Earlier than strolling into my first Refuge Recovery meeting, I had little conception of how it labored – aside from it being founded upon some Buddhist rules and that Noah Levine had created it. I had heard nice issues. I used to be barely daunted – but more excited – at the potential of reinvigorating my recovery with something utterly new to me.
As I walked in I launched myself to other members and was welcomed with compassion, and without judgement. Whereas I respect the anonymity and sanctity of what’s shared in a gathering, I can say that I was not the one one that was walking my path of in search of something totally different.
I took a pamphlet from the desk which defined “Refuge Recovery is a mindfulness-based addiction recovery community that practices and utilizes Buddhist philosophy as the foundation of the recovery process.” The primary inspiration and guiding philosophy for its program are the teachings of Siddhartha (Sid) Gautama – otherwise generally known as the Buddha, and his teachings as Buddhism. Sid believed that “the root cause of suffering is uncontrollable thirst or repetitive craving.”
The Refuge Recovery program does not ask anybody to consider anything – only to belief the method and do the arduous work of restoration. Their apply of Buddhism they describe as a non-theistic strategy to religious follow “that teaches us that we all have our own power to relieve suffering through our own efforts. The core teachings of Buddhism are the Four Noble Truths and the Eightfold Path, in which the practices of mindfulness and compassion play key roles.”
The Four Noble Truths are: Habit creates suffering; The cause of habit is repetitive craving; Recovery is possible; and The trail to restoration is out there.
The Eightfold Path is:
Because the assembly time approached, the room crammed and each seat was taken. I noticed the familiar sight in a meeting the place individuals take their seat, exhale deeply, and chill out their shoulders. I observed that folks seemed extra grounded, extra present – which made me sit upright with an eagerness to study more.
I was taken by their mindfulness based mostly strategy to restoration, which they define as:
Present-time, nonjudgmental, investigative, sort and responsive consciousness. To be aware of the present-time experience of our ideas, intentions, and actions, we should regularly practice and redirect our attention to the right here and now. Mindfulness teaches us to see clearly and respond correctly.
This spoke to me so loudly. I’m an individual who lives sooner or later – consumed with planning, list-making, and the issues I’ve to do. I spend my life wanting ahead. Mindfulness is precisely what I want extra of in my restoration.
The assembly began with a twenty-minute meditation – which I discovered heavenly. I found myself unraveling and turning into in-tune with my physique. I felt grounded, current, and deeply relaxed because the meditation finished. My countless ideas and solution-oriented mind was finally quiet. I felt peace of thoughts.
I typically ask myself why I don’t discover the time to construct this follow into my life when it is so evidently useful to my restoration. I just discover different issues to do – life will get in the best way. Incorporating its apply into a meeting is nothing in need of genius – not least due to its calming nature, however as a result of it lets you join with your self.
I couldn’t consider a better state to share from: where you’re related to your physique, thoughts, and spirit. Certainly that trifecta of connection is fact in its purest type? It’s for me. In fact is the place I attempt to be: the place I function in my highest objective, the place I really feel a deep sense of connection to myself and the world round me.
In some respects, truth-seeking has grow to be ingrained in my every day thoughts, conduct, and actions – where I look at if I am appearing in accordance with my values and function. Not all the time although; typically I feel actually disconnected and wrestle to sift via my feelings. This is the place the apply of mindfulness – notably meditation – is most useful. Maybe that is why I discovered the assembly so helpful.
The second part of the assembly format was an open forum to share both on the meditation – this specific meditation was mindfully observing the current with out judgement or in search of to label what your senses recognized – or whatever is relevant to you in that moment. This is not dissimilar to a standard 12-step meeting. Nevertheless, what I notably appreciated is that there isn’t any have to determine by anything aside from your identify – not an addict, or alcoholic. I discover such labeling self-limiting and it refers to an individual that I used to be. I endure with addictive patterns of conduct, but I am not in lively habit in the present day. I discover it extra empowering to discuss with myself as Olivia, or Liv.
As the assembly closed, I felt alive, energized, related, and compelled to hunt out extra meetings. That’s precisely the breath of recent air that I was on the lookout for.
What is Refuge Recovery?
Refuge Recovery is a non-profit organization grounded in the perception that Buddhist rules and practices create a robust basis for a path to freedom from habit. This program is an strategy to restoration that understands: All people have the facility and potential to free themselves from the struggling that is brought on by habit.
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Whether this path is familiar to you or new to you, all of us benefit from the help of a group of peers who share this journey. For that cause, Refuge Recovery seeks to help these on this path by constructing an in depth and complete network of Refuge Recovery conferences and communities that follow, educate, and supply Buddhist-inspired steerage and meditations for anybody in search of restoration from habit.
To take heed to a podcast on AA Past Perception click on here: Episode 70: Refuge Recovery.
As per ordinary, a superb podcast.